Hello beautiful people!
Have you ever wished that you could see the positive side of things more than the negative? No? Okay, I’m not talking to you, move aside so I can talk to the person behind you. You. Yes, you. What about you? I kid, I kid. Just joking around before we dive deep because this is something I feel people have grown accustomed to.
It seems like our world is built so that we are never satisfied. Don’t like your hair? Try this. Don’t like your body? Do this. Don’t like your clothes? Buy this. It is a never ending parade of negativity where society is telling us that we need more because what we have or who we are isn’t enough.
It’s no wonder we slip down the rabbit hole of always complaining about everything. Have you noticed how you can have great service, a great experience, or really love something you buy, but you never go back and give a “review” or “opinion” unless it is a negative or bad experience? Why is that? I believe it is because we are programmed to mimic what we see more of, or at least notice more and that is the negative.
Think of a baby. It learns how to walk, talk, when it is time to go to bed, what food to eat, bad behavior, and good behavior, all by observing, listening, and learning from others. It’s also the reason why, if you use profanity, you have to be careful not to use it around them because they will pick that up too. I guess some people find it funny when a toddler curses, but you know what isn’t funny? Life when it curses.
That’s what I think all of the negative things paraded in front of us are, whether on TV, in magazines, or in one on one experiences. Negative garbage is like life cursing at you. So, are you going to pick it up, or are you going to be more mindful and start noticing the parts of life that aren’t cursing at you? The parts you are grateful for, the parts that give you peace, the parts that make you laugh, or the parts that leave you in awe.
Sometimes it is best to focus on what is going right and how that feels, rather than what isn’t going right and how that feels. It doesn’t mean that the negative isn’t happening; it just means you aren’t giving all of your attention to it. Both can coexist, but usually, you will focus more on one than the other.
When negative things happen in your life, ask yourself: Is there something I can learn from this or use to correct the situation? Does this negative event highlight other options I may not have noticed, which I can act on? If it’s out of your control, there’s no reason to focus on it. Your answer hasn’t presented itself yet, wait patiently; it will come in due time.
If negative things occur that make you feel negatively toward yourself, ask the same questions. Are there things you can do better to provide yourself with self-love and care so you feel good about yourself? If so, then do it. If not, let it go.
Sometimes, shifting your mindset to see “what is” versus “what isn’t” can be the major change that transforms your life and how you view it. It won’t solve all your problems, but it will give you a sense of peace while you’re figuring it out.
Until next time, Sacred
Finally Loving Life 
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