Finally Loving Life

I started this blog so many years ago with the intention of one day building a support community for those of us who struggle with the day-to-day issues that arise in life. For those of us who have to consistently stay on top of our self-care to ensure our mental health is being taken care of. After years of writing and posting on social media, I’ve realized that building the community I desired in my own life—along with just creating a safe space in the world—was much more difficult than I imagined.

I’ve stopped and started this journey so many times it’s crazy, but the only thing that keeps me going is my “why.” Why would I keep writing a blog that doesn’t seem to get any traction or reach the people I think would need and value it? Why do I write about the difficulties of life and how I handle them? Why do I keep going when everything around me says, maybe you’re not the voice people want to hear or need?

And the answer I’ve come to find is simple. I do it for me, first and foremost. And if it happens to help someone else, then that’s amazing too.

As I wrestle with doubts about whether I’m worthy of speaking positivity into someone else’s life while managing my own struggles, I’ve realized something important: if for no one else, I must be a voice of encouragement for myself. I must keep moving forward, regardless of what I think people may think of me. I know that my heart is in the right place—one of compassion for others who may need to hear the truth about what it’s like to struggle mentally with life, yet still find a way to enjoy it.

That’s why I named this blog Finally Loving Life. Because I realized I can’t wait for life to feel amazing, peaceful, calm, and perfectly in place, without anything going wrong, before I can love it. I needed to find a way to address what was bothering me—the why, the how, the triggers, the losses—but also how I can pivot and turn things around through different practices.

And… I love sharing those things. I love putting this positive way of thinking about life’s challenges out into the world, believing that if anyone out there needs to know they aren’t the only ones dealing with something, this blog can be a resource to help them move forward in their journey. Whether it’s one post or a constant source they can tap into whenever they need it.

I do it because, whenever I’m facing something I don’t know how to handle and I don’t know anyone who’s dealing with the same thing, it can make you feel like there’s something wrong with you. I’ve searched for many resources I could rely on when I’m struggling, but they were few and far between. Sure, I could find blogs with one-off posts about self-care and mental health, but it was hard to find one that was a “one-stop-shop.” I wanted a place that encouraged me while also enlightened me. A place that showed me how to create my own version of a mentally and physically healthy life in a realistic world. A place that shared tools I could use as I continued this journey.

I wanted a safe space where it was okay to say, I’m not okay, and sometimes I struggle with trying to be okay. A place where having past and present trauma that affects how you show up—sometimes in a way that feels unpredictable—isn’t toxic, taboo, or too much. A place where loving me isn’t considered hard, difficult, or just too much work.

A safe space to just be, where nobody is giving up on you—but most importantly, where you aren’t giving up on yourself. A place where I can be celebrated in my completeness, flaws and all, as I learn to embrace, love, and validate all parts of myself. A place where I can see myself, and the life I’m building, come together in a beautiful, yet imperfect way.

A place where you can fall apart if you must—and learn how to put yourself back together again. A place where everyone who comes understands exactly what that means.

All in all, a safe space. A sacred space.

So, I created one for myself—and in turn, if anyone ever needs it, I created it for you too.

I don’t know if these posts will ever reach others or if they’ll see the light of day in a way that helps someone. But this is the place I needed, and it feels good knowing that I’m pouring positivity back into the world. Just in case someone else needs it too.

Love you lots!

Sacred

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