IN THE SHADOWS OF MY MIND CHRONICLES:

Something that I have been working on during this time of reflection is learning how to speak up for myself. As you know by now, everything with me is finding the balance in everything. If you don’t take the time to find out why you suppressed your own voice, you could mistakenly start speaking bluntly and in a disrespectful manner in order to be heard. There is something from your past that needs to be healed first and the hard work of discovery and dealing with that is your responsibility. You know the saying, “Hurt people, hurt people?” Yeah, don’t be that person. Learning how to express yourself in a healthy yet respectful, especially in the times we are living in, is detrimental in how you engage and present yourself to the world. I try to make sure that I listen to what someone is saying because, at the end of the day, we all just want to be heard. If it is something that we disagree on, then we can come to an agreement to agree to disagree. If someone becomes irate in the way they present their point of view, that is when I disengage. I realize that some people want to be heard but some don’t hold the capacity to hear others and that is okay, I just can’t entertain pointless conversations that lead to negative vibrational exchanges. I look at those people as those who have yet to deal with their past pain bodies and are lashing out versus dealing with them. Sometimes you have to realize that you will come in contact with hurt people that have unresolved past trauma. Send up a quick prayer for their internal healing and disengage in a respectful manner, or at least as much as the situation allows. I now, or at least I’m trying to, speak my truth with respect while being open to hearing the other person as well. It’s a healthy balance that says you can speak up for yourself but you don’t have to shut someone else down in order to do so. Have a great week everyone!