Today as I was trying to decide whether my body was bikini ready, I realized how much societies view can shape and mold how we view
ourselves if we aren’t careful.  Imagine a world where everyone can be who they are, wear what they want, and be considered attractive no matter what their features are. There are people who think that we live in such a place but I challenge you to take another look. Cyber bulling is now the new weapon of judgment against people who aren’t like everyone else. Print ads are being photo shopped to the point where it’s not even the same person anymore! Models are dieting to within an inch of their life so they can sell clothes to a consumer where the mass majority of the people are not that size…what is that all about?  You can’t wear white after Labor Day? You should drive this type of car if you want to be sexy and cool, and drive this one if you want to be identified as ecofriendly. Buy this and it will lift your butt, wear this to suck in your gut! Yikes! As I perused over my outward and inward traits, I realized that I love what I see! So I came up with a new perspective on how to deal with it all.

  1. Keep in mind that there will always be people who don’t understand you and that’s ok.
  2. Don’t look at magazines and compare yourself with the women in it, she probably looks just like the rest of us on a regular day without the courtesy of photo shop and a wind machine!
  3. If you took the average model out of the business and told her to just enjoy life, she probably would end up being the
    same size as you and I. Aim for the healthiest version of you, wear clothing that is your size, and be happy with that.
  4. If you bought it and you want to wear it…wear it, I promise no one will take you to jail.
  5. I believe I am sexy and cool and I drive a Saturn, and driving an ecofriendly car doesn’t make me ecofriendly, caring about the condition of the world does.
  6. My butt sits where it does, because that’s where it wants to be today and I don’t want to suck in my gut or wear something that does, I’d rather be able to breathe comfortably thank you!

It might not line up with what society deems as perfect, but it is still good. I love who I am and what I have become, flaws and all. I am a beautiful creation of God’s, forever being molded and formed into the greatest version of me. I can’t control how society shapes it views, but I can control how I allow my views to be shaped by society. As I went ahead and threw my bikini in the suitcase, I decided that I will live my life according to what is right for me… with or without societies backing! Now that’s freedom!