I learned a valuable lesson recently about forgiveness. I found that in life, in order for me to move on, I would shut the door to the possibility that it could work out in the future for the better. It was my defense mechanism, my protection against getting hurt or disappointed. I had this saying, “That once I’m gone, I’m gone!” If I felt something wasn’t going the way I thought that it should go then I would shut the door and move on. The problem with this is that you are always shutting people out or down and never give God the opportunity to fix it when the timing is better for both parties. I think that we follow so many rules that society has placed before us that tell us that it has to look like this, or it has to function or do that in order for it to be this and sometimes it just isn’t so. Sometimes it’s just bad timing, sometimes its miscommunication; sometimes people are so hurt by what they are going through that they don’t realize that they are hurting you during the process. What about the ones who do know that they are hurting you but sometimes it’s from lack of maturity, out of selfishness or you are a reminder of what they are going through and just want to get away from it all. Haven’t we all been there? I’m sure God would say YES and yet He never closed the door on us. He allows us to mature in our ways and accepts us as we are until we become better. How much more should we do this for others as God has done this for us? So I’ve gone back and opened doors that I have closed, be it my fault or theirs. There are some people that I truly miss but would not of allowed them to come back because of how it was left. Now I look forward to the possibility that one day when our timing is right, and they are ready to open the door to me, that we could possibly heal what was lost. It’s quite freeing actually, to not hold anything against anyone for past mistakes. I am healed from my past so that if it works out down the road, then I’m open to it, and I have moved on in my present life so that if it doesn’t, I’m fine with that too. Do not shut the door to the possibility that God can heal a wounded friendship, relationship, or family matter. True forgiveness allows you to move on and enjoy the great things you have in life while leaving the door open for God to handle a situation that you no longer can. You don’t have to look back or go back to check on it, if it will ever be more than what it was, it will see that the door is open and come through it to meet you no matter where you are. Leaving a door open doesn’t mean that you accept or condone the behavior, it just means that you haven’t giving up on them, you believe in them and you believe that they’re worth it and no matter how long it takes, you are willing to except the better version of them when they are ready to share it with you. Isn’t that what God does for us on a daily basis?
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